S O F T E N   
One of the most useful techniques in interrelating
is called SOFTEN.   
Soften is an acronym for:   

Smile  
Open Body Language
Forward Lean  
Touch
Eye Contact
Nod Yes

Another technique is called  H O T   A P  E
Hot ape is an acronym for :

Humor  
Open Body Language  
Touch  

Attention  
Proximity
Eye contact



Open Body Language:
      Directly  face the person with whom you are communicating.
      Both shoulders are equidistant from them.
      Point your feet directly toward the other person.  

Proximity:  
How close are you to the other person?


Attention:     
Give you full attention to the other person.     
Avoid shifting attention to other things happening around you.
Avoid doing something that distracts youattention

Eye Contact:  

Touch:   
      A safe place to touch is on the shoulder
             and/or top center of the back.  
      As touch comes closer to the hand it becomes more intimate

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Reading another persons Body Language:
      Are the facing you directly?     
      Notice their shoulder position.  
      Where are their feet pointing?  
            Directly toward you expresses  interest.    






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